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Phone The Church Office on 0151 677 1186

to ask about booking a Wedding.

 


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    The following information is taken from an article

    on the Church of England Website

    'YOUR MARRIAGE IN THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND'.

     

    Why get married in church?

     

    A marriage service, wherever it is held, is a public declaration of love and commitment to your partner. If you choose to get married in church, there is an added dimension - the assurance that God cares about your relationship and that his resources and strength are available to help you. Including God in your marriage doesn’t mean that you will avoid all the usual ups and downs, but you will know that you can look to God for help and guidance and that his love will sustain you. You will also have the support and encouragement of the Christian Church family.

     

    Preparing for the service: frequently asked questions.

     

    Q: Where can I get married?

    A: You are entitled to be married in the church of the Church of England parish where one or other or you lives. If you are an active, worshipping member of another church congregation, it is usually possible to be married there. If you are under the age of eighteen, you must have your parents’ consent to marry. There are special guidelines on church marriage if you have been divorced: contact the vicar for more information.

     

    Q: How much will it cost?

    A: The legal fees for a marriage cover the publication of the banns, certificate of banns, the marriage service and a certificate of marriage. You can expect to pay something over £400 including a deposit of £50. There are options, such as bells, which will put the price up.

     

    Q: Can I choose what kind of service I want?

    A: Talk over the options with the person leading the service. There are usually one or more readings from the Bible in the service. There will also be some prayers, which you may help to choose, or you may write your own. You may also decide to have someone other than the minister leading the prayers. The minister will probably give a brief talk or sermon.

     

    Q: Should we have one or two rings?

    A: A wedding ring is a symbol of unending love and faithfulness, and of the commitment you are making to each other. It is entirely up to you whether you have one ring or two.

     

    What do Christians believe about marriage?

    Christians believe that marriage is a gift from God. In the marriage ceremony, a couple make a public declaration of lifelong commitment to love each other, come what may.

     

    The Bible compares married love with the love Jesus has for his followers. He expressed his love by being prepared to sacrifice himself, even to die for the people he loved. This is amazing, unconditional love. Jesus never said 'I love you, but …'. In our marriages we can try to follow his model by loving our partners in a self-sacrificial way, putting their needs before our own.

     

    The marriage ceremony gives you a new legal status as husband and wife and a new stability within which your relationship can flourish and grow. Christians believe that marriage offers the right place for the fulfillment of our sexuality and that it provides a stable and secure environment for bringing up children.

     

    Preparing for marriage

    To help you to prepare for your married life together St Mary’s offers a short Marriage Preparation Course. These have proved very successful and have provided a great deal of support for couples as they prepare for their wedding day.

     

    You might also find it helpful to read a book as you prepare for the big day. We would suggest you contact a local Bookshop (e.g. Birkenhead Christian Bookshop 0151 647 8743)

     

    Books to buy

    • 'The marriage book', Nicky and Sila Lee, Alpha publication £5.99 (ISBN 1-9040-7455-3)
    • "Sex - Its always on my mind" J.John on sex
    • "Look before you leap" J.John on preparing for marriage
    • "Till death do us part" J.John on building a marriage

     

    We hope that you have a wonderful wedding day and that it will mark the beginning of a long and very happy marriage.